Chivalry isn’t dead…it has just changed forms

I haven’t written in awhile but I think it’s time I got back to it!

This post is in response (sort of) to this original post.

The below excerpt is what I will focus on:

 If by chivalry they are referring to opening of doors or the pampering or the whispering of “sweet nothings” in their ears then I know exactly what killed chivalry. Women killed chivalry. If chivalry is truly dead then it died at the hands of the average modern woman.

Chivalry from images

Thoughtful insight, but I disagree.  The laws of the universe dictate that nothing can ever truly be created or destroyed; but rather everything just transforms.  Chivalry is no exception.  There are simply just different forms of chivalry now.

One example that I have recently witnessed is much more subtle but way more egregious than simply holding a door or giving compliments.  I have witnessed men literally coming to the rescue of women.   (Not that this only applies to men being chivalrous towards women; this is just all that I have observed. ) Now at first glance this might seem like a good thing right?  It’s definitely no question when there is a threat of physical harm involved.  In that case it’s much appreciated!  But what about when matters of the heart are involved?   This is where the waters get muddy.

Through my own narrow scope of life experiences I have begun noticing that men feel obligated to help women when they are having issues in their own relationships.  A shoulder to cry on or an open ear can mean the world of difference to someone suffering from emotional agony.  This is okay until… BAM!  Feelings have developed!  What used to be platonic has now crossed into forbidden territory.  What used to be friends just chatting has become something more.  We’re talking swamp water if both parties are in a relationship!  Chivalry has its high points but too much chivalry can be a bad thing.

After re-reading this post I think it might sound like I condemn friendships of people in relationships, but that’s not really the case.  I just think that they have to be watched carefully before chivalry’s sneaky new form takes over.